When it comes to describing women, phrases like “a woman’s mind is as deep as the ocean” or “a woman’s thoughts are like fishing for the moon at the bottom of the sea” not only highlight the differences in communication between men and women but also reflect the broad generation gap in sexual desires.
Men often say women are hard to decipher because they say no when they mean yes. Men also claim that they are straightforward because their climax is achieved through ejaculation. However, for women to experience sexual satisfaction, everything must align perfectly, and any missing element can dampen their excitement, not to mention the elusive quest for orgasm. It’s worth noting that many women themselves may not be aware of their sensitive areas, leading them to rely on their imagination during sex and, naturally, having higher demands.
In reality, just like men, women can be driven by intense sexual desire when their minds are consumed by it, to the point where they abandon all inhibitions and throw themselves into seduction (both passive and active) or pursue pleasure boldly. In such moments, they don’t require a specific ambiance, music, candles, or even foreplay to achieve sexual satisfaction.
The subject of orgasm is enticing, as it taps into our primal animal instincts, and the techniques for reaching orgasm are far too extensive to be covered in a single article. Therefore, let’s break it down into two parts, starting with the first movement of sexual arousal. This article is written from the perspective of guiding girls in the hope that you can learn to pleasure yourself, enjoy the delights of masturbation, and later communicate your experiences with your partner to create a fulfilling sexual encounter.
For girls who have never masturbated before, here are some suggested steps:
Prepare a Safe and Comfortable Environment
Find a space where you can be alone and undisturbed, preferably with good sound insulation. Take a shower beforehand (washing your hair and drying it, so your hair feels soft and fragrant). Make sure the bed sheets are clean, and if you want to try any arousing aids (sex toys), clean them in advance, charge them, and replace the batteries to ensure safety and hygiene.
Embark on Sexual Fantasies
The female sexual desire usually begins with a tingling sensation and a blush triggered by a desired person. So, when you are alone, stimulate your brain through visual imagery. You can imagine a beloved public figure or the person you currently have feelings for and engage in a fantasy scenario. Each person has different stimuli; women don't necessarily need to visualize explicit sexual scenes. For some, imagining a passionate kiss or a warm embrace can engorge the vaginal area and make the clitoris erect, just like an erection response in men.
Explore the Sensitivities of Your Body
Some people have highly sensitive senses. For example, a particular scent they enjoy can ignite their desire. Others may prefer kissing, and there are various ways to kiss, depending on the compatibility of your teeth and tongue. Use your fingers (which help train the sensitivity of your nerve endings) or gentle and soft-touch props (such as feathers, although some may prefer harder objects) to lightly caress every inch of your skin.Sitting back against two pillows positioned at the head of the bed, start from your face, ears, neck, shoulders, arms, fingers, armpits, breasts, nipples, waistline, and navel; draw a figure-eight along the shape of your pelvis, trace a triangle following the contours of your genitals, and slowly slide down the inner thighs to your toes. Which area do you want to be touched more?